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I read a news report a few weeks ago of a terrible incident that took place in Delhi: A 12-year-old boy whose bicycle was damaged by a car that was part of a wedding reception. When he asked for compensation so that he could repair his cycle, the people in the party took offence, beat him up and burnt him to death in a nearby field. The story was buried in the regional pages, and hardly generated any public outcry.

A few days later, there was a story of a 2-year-old child who had been trapped in a borewell—a common occurrence across the country. Incidents like these capture the public imagination, and the media obligingly provides a minute-by-minute report of the rescue efforts.

I wondered at these two occurrences and reached an uncomfortable conclusion. We Indians are a nation of hypocrites. Our inconsistencies are not always in such stark and horrific terms, but in thousands of other ways, small and big.

Let me begin with a list of my own inconsistencies: I got my MBA from a prestigious American University, whose founder made his money by profiting from India’s colonization. I fly business class, even though I profess to work on issues concerning the urban poor. I guiltily let the water run when I shave because I find the sound of running water comforting—small trickle, but still. I talk about power sharing in the work that I do, but at home, I struggle to share power with my children.

There are more examples, but this isn’t a therapy session. The point is that I don’t want to sound like a sermonizing moral high-grounder; I just want to talk frankly about the challenges we have as Indians.

Hypocrisy is a big issue in most societies, but it’s a particularly problematic one in India.

We believe that “mamatha”—a mother’s affection—is a sacred emotion, and yet unflinchingly inflict horrors upon our women. We take bribes, and then hope to wash away our sins by thrusting thousands down the slit-eyed hundis of our temples. We speak of compassion, but show little for the household help who toil away in our homes. We study “moral science” in our schools (whoever coined that phrase?) and are tested to see if we got the spelling right when we have the essence wrong.

We learn about civics and citizenship, and yet are often asked—and ask ourselves—why we have such a strong sense of family, but such a poor sense of a larger community: How can our homes be so clean, and our streets so littered with garbage?

Clearly, I am generalizing here— there are thousands of Indians who would justifiably take offence at being called hypocrites, and for good reason. But they are a minority in today’s India.

Every day, in every sphere—business, politics, social work or sports— across the length and breadth of this country, millions of Indians indulge in acts of hypocrisy that collectively add up to an epidemic.

And yet, it seems that there was some noble past, a link between thought and action, where values were cherished. The signs are there: in the sublime music, in our dance forms, in the incredibly sophisticated material about human spirituality, and so on. So, how can a country with so much collective wisdom and spirituality be broken in so apparent a fashion?

It feels that we got massively unhinged somewhere along the way. What is left today is only a frustrating graffiti of greatness: each artefact by itself a tantalizing glimpse into a life that was, but somehow dismembered, leaving more questions than answers.

We have lost a sense of individual agency in our thoughts and actions. Like children of overachieving parents, we seem overwhelmed by the legacy of great ideas in our society. It’s almost like we need to exfoliate these oppressive layers of crusted wisdom that have settled upon our consciousness, and discover our own morality for ourselves. To see the relationship between values, thoughts and actions, and agitate over the inconsistencies that we see in ourselves. To acknowledge that words like “honesty” and “caring” and “respect” are most powerful when displayed in action, not recited by rote.

Getting rid of these layers takes an enormous amount of introspection, a ruthless sense of honesty, and the courage to act upon the schisms when we encounter them. These will be painful.

But if we had the perspective to consider our actions, and the courage to correct ourselves, we could rekindle the greatness that our society seems to have once had. And maybe rediscover our moral compass, one person at a time.

Ramesh Ramanathan is co-founder, Janaagraha. Möbius Strip, much like its mathematical origins, blurs boundaries. It is about the continuum between the state, market and our society. We welcome your comments at ­mobiusstrip@livemint.com

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VINEET Said:


Dear Mr. Ramanathan, I share your agony. However do you not think that the answer to your quest lies in your question itself? - Collective and broken. While the collective mostly is past tense, the "broken" part is fast enveloping us like global warming.It is a direct result of our mental and physal pursuits and the ensuing lifestyle. - That is collective now. This will need to be addressed. I am sure that with collective efforts of fellow citizens the society will turn for the better. It needs constant nudging though. As rightly pointed out in your article the process will have commence within each of us, when we start to end the schisms within ourselves. Through each act of ours let us all endeavour for knowledge and compassion. Reading your article I get the feeling that you already have a fairly good idea of the answers to your dilemna. Is it not?

Posted On 4/10/2008 8:05:15 AM
Vijayendra Said:


The implied choice of our citizenry to wallop between claims to a moral and cultutural high ground" and a self-orchestrated confessional admittance to being part of the every day "hypocritical culture" - both taking us away from the sum and substance of nation's collective wisdom and spirituality is just unacceptable. As a nation we are yet to come to any significant level of understanding, much less a critical confrontation, with the darker aspects of our home-bread culture and some traditinal habbits of thinking. The Indian spiritual tradition and philosophies have to made to bear the responsibility for such a critical confrontation with and be the test-ground for its re-validation. Confronting the banalities of post-modernist world all the more beackons us to an examination of our inner resources.

Posted On 4/10/2008 1:10:59 PM
Sanjay Said:


Very good question. Is it because many of us have got the riches and pleasures we could only dream of a few years back that we do not know how to handle these?

Posted On 4/10/2008 5:52:47 PM
D Said:


I'm surprised that it took someone so long to realize this fact. Hypocrisy is just one of the bane of our society and a minor one at that. I guess this observation becomes more obivious if someone gets a chance to compare our society with any other evolved society, as in this case. Generalization of a population as diverse as ours is not a good idea however for lack of exceptions to this behavior and apparent reluctance of citizens to take responsibilty for upholding the moral tenents we boast of. One will have to agree with Mr. Ramanathan that indeed hypocrisy is built in the fabric of our society. Another thing that is essence of our nation is Optimisim, so we move on.

Posted On 4/11/2008 11:03:58 PM
Hardik Said:


Dear Ramesh, I acquiese, we are nation of hypocrites and it's really matter of writing one article and posting one comment. We are observent but we are not doers. I would like to draw one interesting point here. Prior to moving out of india, if someone would call indians as hypocrite i used to thrash his view with my proclined rational skills. But that role changes as i moved out of India..(You would be feeling same, i presume) As long as we are in India we are used to live same hypocrites life as you mentioned. But when we move out of India we realize our indian moral values, culture, ethics and list goes on. Why So? All of a sudden our palpable sense to surrounding activates and our self goes in observent mode. Then we blame Indian governemnt policies, culture, education, industrial hierarchy, economy, poverty, iliteracy..n points. So still question comes to one point why so? According to me we are driven by external factors in India and we are driven by our ownself outside India. Why so? i dont have reason and explaiantion but it happens..

Posted On 4/14/2008 4:08:32 PM
Re: Neville Said:


Yes, it is a well known fact that we are a nation of hypocrites. Man, at the end of the day is a product of environment. If the environment is hypocritical, then thats how he will turn out too. But change is taking place in our environment - slowly but surely. As the internet and foreign TV channels intrude our lives, we see how life is in other societies. More individuals from the current generation are coming over to make a difference to the larger community than the previous generation did. How long will it take to change our environment is anyone's guess. I guess a couple of generations. We maybe hypocritical but we are patient as well.

Posted On 4/19/2008 7:23:48 PM
you Said:


what the heck are you talking about? After admitting you are a hypocrite yourself, why do you think that someone wants to listen to your theory? "And maybe rediscover our moral compass, one person at a time."...yeah right...starting with you

Posted On 4/22/2008 12:55:04 PM
Harsha Said:


In this surging Indian economy, we all tend to forget reality. We're buried under headline after headline of surging profits, money and success. Ramesh has unmasked the veil that covers the shame that is the real India. Well written, thanks!

Posted On 4/22/2008 8:54:02 PM
S Said:


I always believed that we as a nation lack stamina - physical and mental. Our spirituality and our fatalistic attitudes are just excuses for this inherent weakness that we as a nation possess. Added to this is our attitude to pull other people down to our levels and see if we can benefit by this- not raise ourselves to higher levels.

Posted On 5/7/2008 11:05:53 AM
Chetan Said:


Yes I total agree! We are bunch of hypocrites, we love foreign currency but hate foriegn country, in support of this statement I like to narrate very interesting incident my aunt sitting in a group and they were talking about education in western world .she said "It seems the education is not that good in Western Countries" in contrary to her view her son is doing MS in UK by pending 10 lacks. Then I asked her if the education is bad in Western Countries then why did you send your son to UK for MS by spending that huge amount? There is no answer from her for this. Another for Instance, we live in USA, we bring up our children in USA and when my daughter/son grows to the age of marriage then I want my son to go to India to choose the life partner. We are hypocritical , we remain Hippocratic like Gandhi because it in our blood.

Posted On 2/23/2009 7:36:57 AM
Deepak Said:


Ya, I agree too, indians are hypocrytes. Very well written. If you are an indian and you agree to this, that means you can still improve yourself. If you still think you are not hypocrite, no comments.. You should go for politics..

Posted On 7/29/2009 1:15:19 AM