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MONDAY, NOVEMBER 23, 2009

Twenty-five years ago, I used to volunteer with Vimochana, a women’s group that focuses on violence against women. At that time in Bangalore, dowry deaths were particularly disturbing, and much work was being done to raise awareness about the issue.

On a day when papers reported five cases of unnatural deaths of women in the city, I had occasion to catch up with Vimochana’s indefatigable Donna and Madhu again.

As we sat down to a tasty, healthy lunch in their community kitchen, I asked them what had changed in their work. With so much progressive legislation—the Dowry Prohibition Act, the right of women to their share of family property, laws against sex determination and selection, laws against child labour and with all our progressive policies such as free education for girls in many states, financial inclusion through self-help groups, pension for widows, and so on—surely things have improved tremendously in this quarter century?

No. That was the short answer. Not only is violence continuing in the old brutality, it is taking bewildering new forms. With the right to their inheritance enshrined by law, married women find that in spite of the hefty dowry they brought in, their in-laws are demanding they ask for a share of their family property as well. This creates tremendous tension in the maternal home, especially with the bride’s brothers, and jeopardizes the idea of the mother’s home as a safe haven in a crisis.

In another ironical twist, with easy access to credit made possible through the self-help group movement across the country, prospective grooms are now demanding higher dowry which must be paid for through ever more loans from the friendly neighbourhood bank!

Too often, families seem quite unable to reject and resist the coercion. Dangerously, they prefer the easy way out. Just don’t have daughters. Donna described the uphill struggle against the one-stop female foeticide shops in the newly prosperous farming community of Mandya district, not far from Bangalore. Just wait till the next census, she tells me. The sex ratios will tell a horrible story. Already, in some parts of the country, they are falling to as low as 820 women to 1,000 men.

The more things change, the more they can remain the same for women. Clearly, the values behind the progressive laws and policies have simply not permeated through our societies. Women’s activists are now going through a drastic rethink, turning the theories of women’s empowerment on their head.

World over, studies have shown a positive correlation between women’s development and economic progress. In India, we seem to have had a burst of economic growth riding on global trends, but not enough to show on women’s development. The World Economic Forum releases an annual global gender gap index. The report examines four areas of inequality between men and women—economic participation and opportunity, educational attainment, political empowerment and health and survival. In 2008, India ranked an abysmal 113 out of 130 countries listed.

This remains the biggest unfinished agenda for the nation, the critically important task in front of a new government. Almost one half of the population remains vulnerable to all manner of abuse and injustice. Just making more laws is just not going to work. Vimochana even urges, quite counter-intuitively, that we could abolish the Dowry Prohibition Act which narrows the scope of inquiry into violence against women. There are enough other laws to bring perpetrators to book. But the issue is less about retributive justice and more about prevention. There has to be, they say, an urgent review of current laws to legitimize a different language of justice, a justice without revenge, a restorative justice.

Most activists say that to make a real difference, we need to go beyond economic indicators and establish broader guidelines by which we determine a successful society. Economic progress alone does not ensure that women are treated better at home and at work. If anything, the evidence they come up against every day is that a more materially oriented society creates crushing newer forms of dominance.

In the corporate world, too, there can be a creative rethink on this issue. Far too often, the argument for women’s participation is made through the business case alone. A recent Ernst and Young report suggests that the world can use the strengths of women to rebuild the world economy. Through many examples and studies, it shows how gender diversity in the workplace and on the boards of corporations leads to a much healthier bottom line for the company. That is fine and wonderful. But if you look through the lens of women’s empowerment, it is not enough. The single bottom line cannot give you the true picture, not even about the women inside an organization and their well-being.

So where is the hope? Political representation at all levels can help us reimagine the role of the state, for one. The new Parliament has more women members than ever before. There is a fresh opportunity to do much more, and differently, provided our women MPs do not themselves get co-opted by the system.

Rohini Nilekani works with and supports many non-profit endeavours, especially in water, through Arghyam Foundation. Comment at uncommonground@livemint.com

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A Said:


Although Rohini highlights the violence against women she conveniently forgets to mention that in India according to Govt statistics more than 56000 married men commit suicide after marriage as compared to less than 26000 married women. The Govt investigates all the women’s deaths as dowry deaths as dowry deaths and arrests the husbands and in-laws without any investigation or evidence , while the men’s deaths are brushed under the carpet as due to financial reasons .India has one of most gender biased laws of the world. Under these laws women cannot be punished for misusing laws , adultery ,and can also get away with murder . Thousand of senior citizens , women and children are harassed under the guise of women empowerment laws like the Anti Dowry law , Domestic violence act . Men in India are treated like Free ATM machines and they suffer for years on end in glacially slow India Justice system. The women's organizations show staggeringly false numbers and statistics to attract foreign funds and media sympathy thereby creating the justification for the existence of such laws. The Supreme court of India has on countless occasion directed the Indian Govt to amend these laws and create Gender Neutral laws , but the Govt and the Feminist organizations always come up with articles like these so that women in India are always considered weak and they can run their Women's right shop profitably . Divorces rates are skyrocketing and children are regularly given to fathers with fathers getting 1 hour of visitation a month . The country's family system is now been systematically torn apart by the Govt in collusion with the Feminist organizations who are headed by people who are unmarried , divorced or belong to broken families themselves . The women empowerment bandwagon in India has gone too far now and must be stooped before it causes further damage to the strong Indian family system

Posted On 5/22/2009 10:55:34 AM
Virag Said:


This psychology of suo-motu victimization of women is the root cause of all evils and this is the reason men are suffering today. They are treated as second class citizens. Petty disagreements and unrealistic expectations from them are converted into false criminal cases and men and their families including minor children, senior citizens, handicapped family members, pregnant sisters are made to run for bail and treated worse than criminals. There is nothing called dowry harassment, all false charges are laid just to make money out of a marriage that was anyway not working because of the girl's inadequacy to run a family or her undeserving expectations. If at all dowry is asked for, why do these educated urban women marry then? If the man does not ask for dowry, they force it unto him and then trap him and in 98% of cases, dowry harassment is only on papers and still one after another false cases are lodged, totally bogus statistics are generated and crores of rupees of tax payer's money is wasted only because these women organizations want to run their shop of selling women's rights. See what a man undergoes due to the torture by wives and in-laws. Indian Husbands End thier life:'It Was A Crime That I Was Born As Man' ? “She and her parents asked me to furnish Rs 10 lakh as early as possible. But at that time, I was not in a position to produce the sum. Since I was attached to my son, they prevented me from meeting my son. My wife then made false allegations against me and filed a complaint in the police station under section 498 A. The police without trying to ascertain the truth took me away to the police station. On that day, I died literally. Ever since then I was dying day in and day out for two reasons. One, I was kept away from my son and two; I was harassed by my wife. I was suffering both mentally and physically. It became routine for me to beg for my son. But no one understood me. Finally, I fell at her feet and begged to see my son.

Posted On 5/23/2009 10:06:46 AM
Ab Said:


If you want gender equality, then do not allow any single gender educational institutions. Only co-ed schools and colleges should exist. This allows boys and girls to understand each other better. No other alternative.

Posted On 5/25/2009 12:04:28 PM
Venkat Said:


Now we need a "Men's liberation movement" or else men will become extinct in a few years!! Women have gone too far in exercising their freedom by calling off marriages for no reason and treating their husbands like dirt, if already married. Laws are biased FOR women and AGAINST men and this has to be corrected at lightning pace or else men will continue to get harassed at the hands of psycho-women. I know wives who torture husbands and ask for money or else intimidate that they would file a case in court for dowry harassment!! The skewed system of justice delivery favouring women and feminazism in India will go nowhere but destroy the family system in our country.

Posted On 5/26/2009 10:55:11 AM