I can never understand otherwise well-adjusted couples who don’t get along with each other’s parents.
Here’s my somewhat simplistic logic. You finally find a partner you want to spend your life with. You’re reasonably (or unreasonably) happy together. That means you see the good in him or her, right? How do you think your partner got that way?
Parents are the single biggest influence in any individual’s life. I see so much of my husband’s father and mother in him, how on earth is it possible for me to dislike them? More logic follows. If my partner constantly bitched about my parents, I know we wouldn’t survive a lifetime together. And I guess I owe him the same courtesy of understanding how important his parents are to him.
So please think before you next say: “Can you believe what your mother said to me?” And read the story on Page 7 titled ‘A father’s legacy’. It’s a Wall Street Journal piece by Kevin Helliker, who writes about the deep impact his wife’s father had on her life—even though he died when she was just eight.
Helliker says the relentless focus on negative role models has created a recent phenomenon that could be called the defensive dad i.e. a dad who tries extra hard just to beat all those deadbeat, divorced, distant or just lazy stereotypes.
There’s too much pressure on dads today. I met one the other day who said this of his six-year-old. “She thinks I’m perfect. It’s hard work to ensure I don’t let her down.”
This week’s cover story (Page 12) is on affordable art. For the last few years, the two words haven’t really gone together. But we met a variety of people who believe you can be a small investor in art too. Even I’m thinking of taking the plunge after reading this story.
Currently, most of my earnings go directly into the I-brigade. That’s ITC, Indian Hotels and Infosys Technologies for all you non ticker-obsessed types. So, every time a highly-paid analyst with a posh investment bank announces that Infy’s earnings are doomed because of an appreciating rupee, I rush to buy the company’s shares. That strategy hasn’t let me down so far.
But, perhaps, I’ll buy photographs the next time.