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Not only was the 16-year-old boy 60 pounds (27.2kg) overweight, but a blood test showed he might have fatty liver disease. At last, his mother took him to a paediatric weight management clinic in New Haven. But she did not at all like the dietitian’s advice.

“I can’t believe you’re telling me I can’t buy Chips Ahoy! cookies," said the mother, herself a nurse.

This was hardly the first time that Mary Savoye, the exasperated dietitian who recalled this exchange, had counselled parents who seem unable to acknowledge the harsh truth about their child’s weight. “Often they don’t want to accept it because change means a lot of work for everyone, including themselves," Savoye said.

Despite widespread publicity about the obesity epidemic, parents increasingly seem to be turning a blind eye as their children put on pounds. In a recent study on childhood obesity, more than three-quarters of parents of preschool-age obese sons and nearly 70% of parents of obese daughters described their children as “about the right weight".

The researchers also compared these 2012 survey results with those from a similar survey in 1994. Not only were the children in the recent survey significantly heavier, but the likelihood that parents could identify their child’s weight accurately had declined about 30%.

Dr David L. Katz, the director of Yale’s Prevention Research Center, has coined a word for the problem: “oblivobesity".

“Parents cannot ignore the threat of obesity to our children and still hope to fix it," he wrote in an editorial accompanying the new study.

One reason parents may have difficulty perceiving their child’s weight is because of the “new normal": Throughout the developed world and even in some developing countries, children are generally becoming heavier.

But in an interview, Katz also cited parents for “wilful, genuine denial."

Once a parent acknowledges the child has a problem, he said, “you have to deal with it."

“‘Do I become the food police? Do I have to change my diet and walk the walk?’" he added. “So, often, it’s easier to pretend the problem’s not there."

Other experts counter that the problem can be complicated and subtle, the result of family dynamics. Perhaps the parents are resigned to being overweight. Perhaps there are slender siblings, and the parents can’t figure out a diet that fits all.

“Denial can be a coping mechanism," said Arnaldo Perez, a doctoral candidate at the University of Alberta who researches what motivates families to seek help for their overweight children. Before judging them outright, providers should explore parents’ possible feelings of guilt and failure, he said.

Denial may also be a form of wishful thinking. It is “natural for a parent to want to think optimistically about their child," Dr Thomas N. Robinson, a professor of paediatrics and director of the Center for Healthy Weight at Stanford and Lucile Packard Children’s Hospital Stanford, wrote in an email. “I have parents tell me that they waited to address it because they thought their child would ‘grow out’ of their extra weight," he added.

A child’s weight problem may escape notice for any number of reasons. Many clothing styles obscure shape, for instance, particularly for boys. “When they take their loose-fitting shirts and pants off in the exam room, you see just how a tremendous amount of body fat can be hidden," Robinson said.

And when parents believe their children are active, they are more likely to consider their child’s weight to be normal, studies have shown. But parents often overestimate their children’s physical activity.

Other confounding factors include immigrant status and socioeconomic standing. Dr Francine R. Kaufman, a paediatrics professor at the Keck School of Medicine at the University of Southern California, said that among immigrants from nations where starvation is a reality, “Even the three-, five- and seven-year-old can’t be heavy enough for abuela. Nourishing and nurturing children is often the same."

Other researchers blame the rise in “oblivobesity" on imperfect communication between parents and paediatricians.

A 2011 study on paediatrics found that parents preferred that physicians use terms like “weight problem" and “unhealthy weight", rather than “fat," “obese," and “extremely obese". Doctors may feel awkward about using blunt language, for fear of pushing away patients and losing the chance to discuss behavioural change.

Parents and physicians may have conflicting ideas about appropriate weight. Research shows that low-income mothers distrust growth and weight charts. Of course, a body mass index score or a number on a scale is one factor among many that indicate a child’s overall health. “But weight is the canary in the coal mine of chronic disease," Katz said.

Katz and others said that a first step in helping parents help their children was to set aside the shame that might be their biggest impediment.

“It has to be about love," he said. “Families have to approach this together. This is not just about the child."

©2015/The New York Times

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