Parties nowadays are chock-a-block with screen scrolling, the selfie-mafia and people who can’t talk to another person without thumb-typing a tweet or pouting for yet another groupie shot. If you’re tired of all the phubbing, or phone snubbing, you get from a device-glued friend, this party season treat your family and friends to a digital detox by prepping a device-free party. Here’s how you can perform the miracle.

Find a postbox

Start with yourself. Send invites through the snail mail (remember that mailing system in which you have to look for a little red oblong thing called the postbox?). That means no Facebook message invite or a WhatsApp group invite. Instead, sit down, draw, write, create a handmade card, or if you don’t have time, log on to Quilling Treasures ( to make a few cards. Now find out your friends addresses with a call and then go find a postbox to mail them. Simple, no?

RSVP, no phones

Cellphones have become an extended third arm for people, so don’t think you can get away with planning a surprise device-free party. Unless you want to turn all your friends into enemies, be polite and ask friends to come prepared for the digital detox. Spell out what it means—no smartphones, no tablets, no television, nothing that’s connected to Internet (including fitness bands) and nothing that beeps occasionally (even pagers). It shouldn’t be a shock for the invitees or you might find that some of them are offended when you grab their phones.

Confiscate all technology

To make sure your guests know that you are serious about this gadget-free party, ask them to switch off the phones, or even confiscate their phones, politely.

This party season opt for sketching instead of taking photos.
This party season opt for sketching instead of taking photos.

Sketch a selfie

If someone wants to use his/her camera to record the wondrous conversations and moments that you’re experiencing, hand them a pen and paper (have lots of those around). Now ask them to record, the old-fashioned way. Write, sketch, draw, doodle anything to recreate the experiences that they’re witnessing. Post the party, order frames from Pepperfry (, ( or other shopping websites, frame the creation and send it as a thank-you gift.

Keep board games

Play sci-fi themed board games.

Cook together

If you have a small and intimate gathering, ask your friends to get involved with the party. Cook a recipe together or do a potluck. Divide responsibilities so that everyone works on it together and keeps busy. For recipe inspirations, head to

Get a few tapes

Listen to music the retro way. Ask your friends to fish out their favourite tapes from the attic and bring them to the party. Bicker on which song you want to listen to first, argue on the positives of a 1990s cheesy Bollywood song versus Madonna crooning Like A Virgin. Laugh, make fun of bad choices you made when you were younger. If you don’t have a boombox, get Philips CD Soundmachine (, 3,499). It plays tape, CD, MP3, even records tape to CD.

Keep musical instruments

Remember how we all used to play antakshari for hours together? If you have friends who like music, ask them to bring along their guitars and percussion instruments. Before you know, you will have all at the party humming and singing along. And if you have the budget, buy an instrument or two from Bajaao (, which has a large collection of acoustic string, and Indian instruments.

Avoid the schoolmarm approach

You might feel strongly about keeping the party device-free, but in spite of your invitation and the tech box, some guests might still go for their phones. Don’t offend them by creating an untoward scene. If it’s an urgent call that the guest just has to take, let them. If they’re just checking their Twitter feed, try a humorous approach and send them a WhatsApp ping or a tweet to remind them that you’re in the same room as them.

Allow a communal checking

If it’s the first time and you’re all equally connected to the phone, why not allow a couple of minutes every few hours as tech breaks? Do it communally so that none of you feel left out and all of you get your fixes. Once you’ve done so, get back to the board games and restart the conversation.

Can’t keep away? Pay

Keep a small corner in the tech box empty—for anyone who opens it, ask them to pay a fine for using their phone. Maybe 100 or less for each time someone reaches for their phone. Post the party, head to Give India (, which lets you choose an non-governmental organization of your choice and donate the money you’ve collected at the party.