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DANCING DIVORCEE: It is not in our stars

Isn’t the pairing of human beings so much more complex than what the stars dictate?

When I see that big, fat book of ‘Love Signs’ in my bookshelf, I can’t help feeling a little sad. Photo: Thinkstock (Thinkstock)Premium
When I see that big, fat book of ‘Love Signs’ in my bookshelf, I can’t help feeling a little sad. Photo: Thinkstock
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The Ex is a Sagittarius and I am a Leo. According to astrology we are very high on the compatibility factor. One site gives us ten on ten as a couple. Another even promises that the relationship between a Leo and Sagittarius is so ideal that a happy marriage is guaranteed. The sound you just heard was my jaw hitting the floor and bouncing back.

A cousin of mine is a Leo-Virgo couple who on the love scale is ‘Not a match made in heaven’. They seem fine together though. In fact they even have a Piscean daughter, who thankfully, doesn’t look like a fish.

I remember when the Ex and I started dating, I used to feverishly read-up all these love predictions. According to Western Astrology, Chinese Zodiac and Numerology the Ex and I were perfectly matched. He was the monkey to my dragon and I was the number 3 to his number 6.

When I decided to get married, my parents didn’t check our horoscopes as they didn’t believe in it. (Wonder where I got my beliefs from? There must have been a ‘stupid-rising’ when I was born). However, all large families have large aunties who do the needful ‘Just in case’. Our jathakams (I think that’s Malayalam for kundali) matched. Everybody thanked the stars and the love-marriage sceptics muttered a little less.

The first few years, we were beautifully compatible. I’m sure the stars looked down and approved at what they saw. Then we had tempers ascending and love descending. Finally the promised fireworks between us became a damp squib.

A friend’s father who is an astrologer told me that my readings of these things, like most people, were superficial. He said there were a million factors I hadn’t taken into account, which made for an incorrect reading about me and the Ex. He must have been right and I’m not writing this to rubbish anybody’s belief.

It’s just that when I see that big, fat book of ‘Love Signs’ in my bookshelf, I can’t help feeling a little sad. I remember nights during our dating days, when I sat up reading with such love-sick concentration, trying to decode whether the Ex actually liked me. Not for a second, did I think that these were the words written by someone, who didn’t know a single thing about our real lives, about our history, our baggage and the cracks in our emotional make-up.

I know friends who want a ‘Taurean Boy or a Libran Girl’. What about just a healthy baby? Doesn’t that make more sense? So many people have told me that they avoid ‘Scorpion men’ or are careful when it comes to ‘Gemini girls’. What do these things mean? Does anybody, actually live their life by them? Isn’t the pairing of human beings so much more complex than what the stars dictate?

For every rule the stars make, there are and will be innumerable exceptions. I was one of them. The stars had decided that I would be with the Ex forever, happily ever after. Fate, sometimes also called free will, chose otherwise.

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Published: 02 May 2013, 08:33 PM IST
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