20-year-old woman speaks out on alleged abuse by father over choice of clothes

A 20-year-old woman shared on Reddit that she has been facing ongoing physical abuse from her father, who works part-time as a delivery agent for a food-aggregator app.

According to her post, the father often beats her with belts, slaps, chokes and has even used a hammer over minor reasons, such as “wearing sleeveless clothes”.

“Audacity of hitting me for sleeveless shirts when he’s half-naked all the time,” the daughter added.

“Irony? He’s always in his underwear at home. I’m so uncomfortable. He does stuff down there in front of everyone,” the Reddit user wrote.

“We’re so poor, and also I depend on him for college fees, books and travel. I’m tired. My self-respect, my life, everything’s ruined,” she wrote.

The violence reportedly began in her childhood and has continued despite public humiliation and multiple interventions.

“It was always like this. When I was 5-6, I wanted to see one of his friends. I kept asking, so he hit me so hard my mouth bled. Another time, a guy gave me chocolate. He started hitting and slapping me on the road in front of everyone so hard I fell. He’d pick me up by my legs, hit me again, and I’d fall again—loop. People tried stopping him. He never listened,” the user added.

Her mother, who married at a young age and allegedly experienced similar abuse, reportedly blames her daughter for the beatings.

“She was 17 when she had me. Before I was born, he hit her too. Now she says it’s my fault he hits me (sic),” the daughter wrote.

The family lives in a cramped one-room chawl, where the father’s inappropriate behaviour adds to her distress. Dependent on him for college expenses, the student feels trapped, hopeless and emotionally broken.

“There are a few people in my DMs saying to start OnlyFans, sell feet pictures, etc. Have some shame. You all are no less than monsters yourselves,” the young woman wrote.

Social media reaction

Many Reddit users, however, offered supportive advice and guidance.

“Best you can do is get a job away from home,” advised a Reddit user.

“Complete your education first. Try to get a job and move out ASAP. Once you are out and settled, get out your mom, too. That monster doesn't deserve you. You suffered a lot in life, but no more,” came from another.

“Contact your local gurudwara committee, explain them the situation, I am very very sure they will sort this out, tell them to threaten your father with an FIR, if he beats you again,” advised another.